"To completely understand a Narcissist you have to conceptualize that everything about them is a LIE. To take it further - not ALMOST everything about them is a lie but EVERYTHING from I love you, I hate you, my family hates you, your friends hate you, the world hates you, you are crazy or mentally ill, ect., ect.
Don't forget all the other day to day lies, the lies about stupid stuff, the lies about accountability, the lies about other lies, and every other lie about anything and everything. The Narcissist downloads these lees and negative messages into your head and your heart to manage you down, gain power over you, and to control you.
So when you refer back to ANY of these messages the Narcissist put in your head, try to relate to them, try to resolve any of the problems or issues you have or had with them, try fix the relationship, make sense or try to understand the Narcissist - you are only listening and replaying the same old lies that manipulated into the place where you are today that trapped you into this abusive dance with them.
Those messages and lies were personally designed to blame, shame, and debilitate you - AND THEY HAVE! Discard the Narcissist and discard every word they have ever spoken to you because EVERYTHING WAS A LIE!"
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