This is NOT something that the victim has conscious control over because it is purely lies, deception, manipulation and control. This manipulative aspect is called 'gaslighting' and it seriously confounds and distorts the victim's reality and it ALL starts out with the biggest distortion or the charm and love bombing the Narcissist uses to create a strong emotional bond and trust with their potential victim.
This is what creates that familiar or what appears to be a 'normal' relationship FIRST that the victim falls into unknowingly. It is a TRAP and purely deception on the Narcissist's part to control their victim by continually keeping them in a vicious circle of belief and then doubt.
THAT is what destroys and disables the victim as well as becomes their new reality where they start to internalize the many negative messages, blame, shame, punishment, betrayal, and abusive actions. It basically erases the victim's personality, destroys their self-worth, belief system and completely traumatizes their life!"
Read entire article @: ANA -After Narc Abuse
